Surfers, Gratitude and Goal Setting
What are you grateful for? Have you set some goals for 2012? What do surfers have to do with it?
I want to share a short video with you that will help start thinking about what you want to accomplish in 2012.
30 Days to Fun Challenge
Ideas to get the fun back in your life so you can think more creatively and be more productive in your business.
Clear a Space ~ Practice Patience
Clear a Space
Spring is here and I find myself cleaning and clearing things! There is something wonderful that Spring allows me every year, it’s like a gift to me. It’s that wonderful signal to renew, refresh and revitalize.
Here in Redondo Beach, the coming of spring is rather subtle, unlike in my hometown of Vancouver, B.C. where it smiles brightly after a long gray winter. Throwing colorful flowers from the ground with great glee.
The weather at the beach is usually so mild that it seems Spring slides in quite quietly. It is, however, always lovely. The rain transforms the once brown hills into beautiful shades of green. And in another month, the hills close to where I live will be covered in pink and yellow flowers. Simply beautiful!
So I say, take a deep breath of fresh air and clear the clutter, straighten your closet, clear your desk and office and make room for something new.
New ideas. New ways of doing things. New thoughts. New ways to play. New ways to incorporate your dreams and goals into your everyday life. An uncluttered workspace will give you a fresh perspective.
Practice Patience
Have you been feeling impatient with yourself lately? Are you feeling like you are not getting enough done every day, that things are in chaos and that the stress is really getting to you? One way to handle this stress and chaotic atmosphere is to practice patience, especially with yourself.
The power of patience is absolutely extraordinary. It will help you transform situations and circumstances that you might think are destined for disaster. This is not always easy to do, especially when the computer is misbehaving, someone cuts you off in traffic and you feel like you’ve really goofed up on something important.
This is the time to take a deep breath and just stop for a moment. Learn to ignore the things you cannot change and concentrate on things that can make a difference. Know that patience helps us make better decisions and appreciate the things that do go well.
Easier said than done, you say? Perhaps, but as with anything, practice helps. People around you will be amazed.
What I Learned From 6th Graders
What I Learned From 6th Graders
I had the opportunity to speak to a group of 6th grade girls last week about Possibility Thinking. When I asked the class what they thought possibility thinking meant, I got some pretty savvy answers. It was very inspiring to experience the freshness of their perspective. They were inquisitive, interested and had the lovely quality of innocence and optimism. I was reminded to view the world with more optimism.
So what is Possibility Thinking? It starts with positive thinking but goes beyond that. While it is important to think positively, it is equally important to go beyond and become aware that there are possibilities in every situation, good or bad. It is about viewing life as more than just a struggle to survive, but seeing the many exciting challenges and opportunities that help you thrive. It’s all about perspective. These girls reminded me to keep perspective and that this way of thinking is empowering and transformative.
When I was thinking about what I might share with them, I recalled an inspiring speech I heard by Sean Stephenson. Sean Stephenson is an amazing man. I had the opportunity to sit and chat with him last year after his speech. Priceless!
This excerpt is from his website: “Expected to die at birth, Sean Stephenson faced an army of reasons to give up and countless opportunities to embrace pity. He suffered more than 200 bone fractures by age 18, reached a height of only 3 feet, and is permanently confined to a wheelchair. However, this man took a stand for a quality of life that has inspired millions of people around the world, including Tony Robbins and President Clinton.”
I told the girls some of Sean’s story and how, against great odds, he still believed that anything was possible. They were amazed. And I realized that with the simple act of listening to the story, they were already starting to think in a different way. It was a good reminder for me too! It’s an amazing and inspirational story. I recommend that you take a look at Sean’s book, “Get Off Your But”. I also learned that I needed to pick it up again for a refresher!
I talked to the girls about how important it is to think out of the box, which is sometimes hard to do when you are standing inside the box. They reminded me that as an adult I have my own special set of limiting beliefs! And these beliefs are in my head, they don’t need to be real unless I allow them to be.
We did an exercise involving Super Heroes. I was inspired by my friend Lori Grayson, TheItFactorFormula.com, to use super heroes as an opportunity to allow the girls the freedom to think out of the box, to be whatever they wanted, have any special power, wear what they wanted.
It was a beautiful unfolding of dreams. Colorful super heroes doing amazing things came to life, right there in the classroom. The girls were excited to see the possibilities in their own lives by drawing on their own unique talents. They expressed super powers of flying, playing music to calm people, and powers to heal the world.
So take some time this week to think about your super hero persona. What would your magical powers be, what could you do to change the world, if only in a small way?
Craig Kielburger was 12 when he founded Free the Children. I’ve learned a lot from these 6th graders in the past week. They have inspired, challenged and reminded me that when we allow ourselves the space to dream, miracles do happen every day.
Passion and the Frog
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I read a story a long time ago about a frog finding his true love. It was a variation of the old fairytale about the Princess and the Frog. His passion to find his true love was very admirable. He was singleminded and optimistic. He persevered through dashed hopes and seemingly insurmountable obstacles. He overcame them all, because he was passionate. He never doubted he would find her. And, of course, he did. Her kiss transformed him back into a prince and just as in the fairytale, they lived happily ever after. It was the search for her, of course, that really transformed him, not the kiss. We all have dreams. But what is it that causes one person to realize one’s dreams and another to only dream them? I believe it’s passion; and it’s passion that fuels our dreams. So what is the difference between Purpose and Passion? I think that purpose defines why we are here. Some refer to purpose as a calling, others as one’s “life’s work.” But passion is the energy–emotional, physical, mental, often spiritual–that drives and supports us to focus our efforts on our dreams. Do you know what your purpose is? Have you lost your passion? Some of you may already know or remember what your purpose is, some of you may not. Either way, it’s important to reignite and nurture your passion for it. There is something you do for a living and then there is the thing you were born to do. The thing you were born to do is most often the thing you are or could be most passionate about. But often we don’t remember what that is or don’t believe we can accomplish or even understand it’s true value. Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer said the following at a commencement address: “You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.” I’d like to offer you some questions that, when considered, will help you remember what your purpose and passion might be. Please take some time to answer the following:
Find some time, and write down your answers. I think you might be surprised at what you write. If you are having a hard time with this, don’t worry. It will come to you. I love Elizabeth Gilbert’s story of her friend Sarah who said “don’t worry about following your passion for a while. Just follow your curiosity instead.” |
Your Dream Needs Chocolate
When was the last time you gave yourself permission to look at your dreams? Do you have a big, fat dream that you keep hidden away? Or have you put it so far out of your mind that it’s standing on a narrow ledge waiting to leap into the void?

Dare to be feisty. Maybe even plucky. Grab your dream from the precipice and haul it back in. Keep it close to you where you can see it and remember it. Don’t let anyone steal it, especially you. Nurture it and treat it with kindness.
Dreams are incredibly valuable commoditiesbecause they propel us forward and give us energy. They even make us enthusiastic about life again. If you aren’t sure you have a dream you want to pursue,take some time to develop one. Call me. I can help you remember.
You can start small if you like, but do dare to dream again. Get out your journal or a piece of paper andtake time to explore, articulate and identify your heart’s desire. Come up with one dream everyday for the next seven days. You will be amazed how you feel in one week.
As actress Josie Bisset remarked, “Dreams come a size too big so we can grow into them.”
So give yourself permission to look at your big, fat dream and don’t be afraid to grow into it.
Creativity~What’s Tea Got to Do With It?
I was drinking a cup of tea the other day, from the Republic of Tea. I have had many cups of this particular tea in the past, but never really noticed the label before. Yes, I thought it was pretty and inviting, and I liked the fact that it was in a small round metal tin, but I had never read the side of the label. That day, I did.
It read:
Blackberry Sage, Tea For Wisdom
“I say you can trace the whole mess on this planet to the fact that we lose ourselves in ideas for living while life awaits us to inhabit it. Tea is not an idea, but the end of all ideas. With a single sip the cloud of busy mind is made to pass and the light of life breaks through to show us what we have kept concealed from ourselves all along.”
Hmmm, pretty profound for tea! And I thought, Creativity is not an idea, but the end (and beginning) of all ideas. And simply allowing a small, consistent amount of creative time, shows us who we are and helps us remember what we really want. Don’t underestimate the power of allowing your creativity to give you the space to play and to let solutions and inner callings emerge.
The month of January is always a time of renewal for me. It actually starts in December and flows into the first few weeks of the year. Not a renewal, like spring, but a renewal of my commitment to my family, my work and myself. Renewing my passion and purpose.
Why not take a few minutes to renew your passion by simply doodling on a piece of paper, writing in your journal, snapping some pictures, or coloring in a coloring book. I think you will find yourself smiling when you do. Who knows what could emerge?
Back to the Beach
I am so fortunate to live very close to the ocean. So there is no excuse for me not to get out there and get some exercise! But I’ve found a million! The holidays always seem to be the biggest, don’t they? So I’ve made the decision. It’s back to the beach and on my bike. I’ve done this first thing, early in the morning the past few days. And it feels wonderful.
Like anything, it just takes a decision and most often making that decision is harder than riding the bike. Looking at the ocean and feeling the breeze on my face…fabulous!
What is your delightful purpose?
For most of my life, I have found myself in the position of helping others feel comfortable. Not so much comfortable with me, but with themselves. I’m fascinated that each of us has our own unique story, our own unique set of interests, motivations, dreams and passions. I love to hear these stories and to help people re-discover their dreams and passions—get that twinkle back in their eyes.
We were all born with a purpose, yet so many of us have been so busy on the fast track of life, that we have forgotten to give ourselves time to just BE and listen to what our hearts are yearning for.
So take a moment to be still. It doesn’t have to be a long time. Perhaps 10 minutes. Think with your heart instead of your head and allow that whisper of your inner calling to become loud enough for you to hear.



